STEP TWO - TRUE GOAL DISCOVERY
Dive deep into what makes you tick
Step 2 is probably the most fun part of this whole process, it is where you get to discover your true self, it is where you will get to dream, where you will get to imagine and go on a little trip of discovery. It is the part where your true life’s goals await.
It is quite often on a trip of discovery where we find what living your best life actually means to us internally. And, most often, your life’s true goals and not obvious and need to be discovered from beneath and within.
You are free and able to dream, to imagine and to explore and go on a little brain storming session through the use of multiple exercises. You are able to examine your life through a number of angles in order to set you up best for the future of Living your best life.
In later steps you will refine your ideas and goals, and will combine and translate your discoveries. You will narrow these discoveries down into specific goals and idea’s, - But, during these initial exercises you must imagine that:
➢ You have all the resources you need (e.g. time, money, people, etc.);
➢ You can reach any goal;
➢ You have no limitations.
We must allow ourselves to dream…
We must not allow any limitations….
We will imagine and allow our life as we want it to be….
The 3 exercises for this step should be done in the order 1,2 then 3.
You may only need one of the steps, but until they are complete, you wont know which one. The aim is to look into your life from a variety of angles and perspectives.
The instructions here are:
➢ You have no limitation;
➢ Imagine you can have anything;
➢ Dream big;
➢ Have fun.
Do not examine in detail your answers here in this step, we will break these ideas down into smaller achievable steps in later steps. This step is designed to start building the pathway of living your BEST Life.
Allow your self – 10-15 minutes of un interrupted time of solitude and reflection in order to get the best from the time, the exercise and yourself.
Steven Covey wrote in his book “seven habits of highly effective people” extensively about our roles in life. Your roles may be son/daughter, partner, brother/sister, leader, employee, etc.
Take a second sheet of paper and divide into 3 columns:
1. In the first column list your roles;
2. In the second, write down why these roles are important to you;
3. In the third column write down the progress you would like to have in your roles.
Areas of life.
There is a very famous exercise call “the circle of life” – you list the most important areas of life and normally you would rate yourself from 1 to 10 how you do in each area.
We like the areas of life exercise, but rather than demotivate yourself with a low rating. What we like to do is just the opposite – we want to define what a 10 in each area means.
On a piece of paper – divide into 2 columns.
In the first column write down the various area’s of your life
Then, in the second column, write down the progress you wish to make in each of these various areas of your life.
Most people have multiple areas. here are few examples:
➢ Health & fitness
➢ Fun and entertainment
➢ Personal and spiritual development
Write down the progress you would like to make in each area. Maybe you want to gain a skill or improve the relationships with your family?
The 3 Questions
This is one of our favourite exploration exercises. A dreaming exercise from Vishen Lakhani
You can watch a video of this exercise with guidance from Vishen here.
This is a times exercise – Take a timer and give yourself 2 minutes to answer the following questions. Do not analyse your answers, do not try and think of logic, do not allow practicality to drive your imagination.
Again, take a blank sheet of paper.
Divide the sheet into three columns. With a time limit set to 2 minutes, Into the three columns you write your answers to these 3 questions:
➢ 1 - Experience – what would you like to experience during your life?
➢ 2 - Growth – how would you like to grow during your life?
➢ 3 - Contribution – how would you like to contribute to the planet during your life?